Thalia de Jesús:
Who has made the greatest impact on my life? I suppose I could say my mother. Or my father. They made me after all and their actions and their words shaped me into what I find myself today. That's a given. But who I want to talk about right now is a guy by the name of Bryan.
There are millions of Bryan's out there, but this particular one is quite special to me for many reasons. When was the last time you yourself met someone who really listened to you? And I mean really. Someone who wasn't just nodding at what you're saying, or interrupting you with their own stories. Someone who hears not only the words you speak but the feelings beyond them. I'm talking about a remarkable individual who empathizes, not sympathizes; their attention is focused only on you. They makes you feel Heard with a captial H.
Have you had the unspoken understanding of a fellow human being who eases the loneliness you feel? This person who listens so intently as tearfully, you spill it all in long, rambling, barely coherant sentences but they understand anyway? Or phoning them up in the middle of the night because of the wonderful news that leaves you incapable of sitting still for even a minute? Either way they listen indulgently. This is not a fair weather friend.
Being really heard.. this is a precious gift that I treasure and I silently thank whoever is up there everytime I speak to him.
When my life was crumbling apart around me and I was backed into a corner, numb and unable to cry out for help, Bryan came into my life. It was a causal thing; he came strolling by, as if completely by chance, and he stopped and he listened to that girl backed into the corner. Perhaps he found it strange that the girl started telling him all these things about herself and her life and the girl found it even stranger that she was telling it to him, but that man did not walk away - he listened to her. And then she could open up again.
Gradually she found she could stand up straight once more. And as she talked about the crumbling world, she realized that it wasn't so bad, that only a small part was broken, and even that could be mostly repaired.
I think perhaps that many tragedies from all walks of life could be averted if that scared little boy or that scared little girl inside of us had someone who willing to listen.
The understanding.. it's like water for the parched soul, like food for the starving body slowly withering away. It's beautiful sunlight warming the ground that has been shrouded in darkness for far too long.
Listen to the people in your life. Really listen. It might save their life.
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